Answer to Question About Drug Addicted Son

I recently sent out an email about the power of visualization.

In a "PS" I asked a question.. Here is one f the answers I received:

to your question: What would you most want to use your powers of visualization to manifest?

to me, that have a teenager in drugs at home, i would love to see him healthy, happy and free of addictions. How could i manifest that?

i'm searching for the response within, reading whatever i could find in internet about personal accountability and self-growth, and seriously working to have myself improved, more loving, more understanding, more open-minded… but i would appreciate with my life if somebody out there has a response for it.

I'm not sure why i'm giving you this info or even replying to an email i know most likely it was tailored to be sent massively, but somehow i felt the question came directly to me, and to nobody else… and i had to respond from the hearth.

Bendiciones (Blessings)

My heart softened when I read this email.  Can you feel the authenticity and sincerity in this message?

And so the answer is actually in the question.  It is the same authenticity and sincerity that is expressed here that is also the solution to this problem.

I get many emails but I am highlighting this one because it so clearly expresses the dilemma in which so many of us find ourselves.

Our pain comes from the pain of a loved one.  And it seems we must change them in order to heal our own hearts.  Since we cannot change another, we feel powerless and stuck in an impossible situation.

I'd like to suggest a paradoxical two-part approach to this issue.  It is paradoxical because the two parts would seem to contradict each other.  But when you can find the harmony between them, you can move mountains.

The two parts of this approach are as follows:

  1. Accept your son exactly the way he is.  Love him unconditionally and do not try to change one thing about him.
  2. Envision your son exactly as you believe he would be in his true happiness and see it as true.  Ignore all evidence to the contrary and let him live in your heart as the happy, loving, loveable, free, joyful version of him that your heart knows.

You may be wondering how you can do both of these at the same time.  It is actually easier than you might think.

In your acceptance, you release resistance and you love him unconditionally.  You do not allow any behavior or appearance to have more power than your love for him.  Look at him, either with your eyes or in your mind, and systematically accept everything about him.  Love his hair and his clothes and the way his shoes look and the look in his eyes.  Find love in every aspect of him.

In order to do this you must give up your idea of the meaning of things and go directly to your love.

Once you have done this, step two becomes much easier.  Once you access your unconditional love for him in his present condition, you can easily see him happy and strong and independent in your mind.  You can see it because the love in your heart paints that picture easily.

You can see it like a cartoon that lives inside of him. It is a potential version of him and the more you see it, the more you strengthen it.  You bring it out in him by merely seeing it and relating to it.

And the best part is that since you are totally accepting of him as he is, there is no resistance in your vibration.

Miracles come of this.

Thank you for writing.

I wish you love,
Rebbie