The Meaning of "Relationship"

"The clearer I get, the better you look."
Dr. Rickie Byars-Beckwith

Rickie glided her message in on a wave of laughter (see quote above).

I guess there were about 200 of us in the room. The message was strong, multi-layered and true. The clearer we all got, the better we all looked to each other. With this light little phrase, Rickie summed up just about everything we need to know about relationships.

We tend to think that our relationships are the way they are because of the other person. We fall in love because the other is so wonderful or we blame the other for all our problems. We try to change them or we try to make them like us. We exert all kinds of efforts in the direction of the other.

Rickie's little dictum reveals all that wasted energy and redirects us, in a light and playful manner, to the truth. "The clearer I get, the better you look."

While pondering Rickie's comment and looking at the word "relationship," I found some clues about the nature of relationship in the word-fragments. I enlisted the help of Webster and some images began to form. I'd like to use these word-fragments here to reveal the beneficial vibrational template within the word and to use it to nourish all our relationships.

Word Fragments

You may find other patterns within this wonderful word. Here are the ones I'd like to highlight by breaking up the word something like this:
Re – elat – ion – ship
And now we'll add Webster's contribution:

  • Re-: again: anew
  • Relate: to respond favorably
  • Elate: to raise the spirits of
  • Ion: an atom, group of atoms or molecule that has acquired a net electric charge by gaining or losing electrons from a neutral configuration.
  • Ship: a large vessel built for deep water navigation


Now let's translate all this into something we can use to improve our relationships. Let's begin with the word "ion." In order to make this work for us, we need to understand the relationship between atom and Adam. As the atom is the fundamental and original form of matter, Adam is the fundamental and original human being. They are branches of the same idea. Atom and Adam refer to the same thing. So we will replace the word
"atom" with the word "Adam" and we will generalize the word "Adam" to "person."

The ion's electrical charge, due to a loss or gain of electrons, translates easily to the human realm. As we lose our sense of wholeness and neutrality, we seek others. We move toward many of our relationships hoping that through a balancing of charge we can again feel whole, neutral.

When this is done well, the result is elation. We respond favorably to each other, over and over again and this allows us to navigate successfully, with spirits raised, through the deep waters of life. We can now construct a new definition of relationship, working with the word itself, from the inside out.

New Definition

Relationship is the repeated elation that occurs when people respond favorably to each other in their search for wholeness while navigating through the deep waters of life.


So the big question is, how can we do this so effectively that the true blessing of relationship flourishes in our lives? How can our relationships bring ever-new elation and steady seafaring through the ups and downs we encounter?

Rickie gave us the answer clearly and directly. By becoming clear within ourselves, all our relationships rise to their highest potential. We cease looking for the other to change and we spend our time appreciating. We turn our focus inward and open our hearts outward. Then, even though we may still feel "charged" and we may still seek balance and neutralization through our interactions with others, we do it from a place of clarity and stability. Pretty soon, you get very clear and everyone else starts looking very good.

To find your soul mate, follow the Law of Attraction system "27 Days to Finding Your Soul Mate"

To feel more love and joy in your current relationship, follow the expansion of the same program. (Just skip the part for finding your soul mate and move right into the part for making your relationships work.)

13 thoughts on “The Meaning of "Relationship"

  1. I love the explanation. I'd love it even more if I had a "relationship". Have a great week, a happy birthday and a wonderful Valentine's Day.

  2. Magical! I love this. And I started today with my wings flying a bit low, this is helping to lift me!

  3. This is profound and feels exactly right on. I love that repeated elation as I search for wholeness while navigating the deep rivers of life! How sweet it is!

  4. Wonderfully put!!! I've been living a fantastically full life and even forgot about finding "The One" Now he found me and he looks soooo good!!!! Appreciate Appreciate Appreciate!! It makes life awesome!!!

  5. Dear Rebbie,
    Very uplifting meaning; it truly lifts the persons involved and their relationship !! A very beautiful insight. Thank you for the same.
    Please accept our heartfelt BEST WISHES to you on your birthday. May this special day usher in new era of greater success, accomplishment in your service to our planet Earth and greater JOY.
    Sending you my unconditional love-Sewak.

  6. What a wonderful New Definition! I have to admit, tho, that I was saddened to see this wonderful insight, almost immediately followed by a link to how to find you "Soul Mate". Yet again, it seems that no matter how much we try to find the wholeness from within the Self, we are still drawn to filling a "void" of some sort, with having another Being in our lives.

    Thank-you for the beautiful definition!

  7. Thanks for all the great comments and birthday wishes. I'm so glad you feel the upliftment of playing with words with me!

  8. I really, really liked your definition of relationships. Very good. Too bad most humans end up in relationships that really don't fullfil them. I know that when we are young, relationships are important, but I just turned 58 and I think I am done. If I can't have the relationship that I want, then I don't want one at all. By the way . . . soul mates aren't all they are cracked up to be. I think I am going to hold out for my twin ray.

  9. LOVE THIS. . . What a wonderful break down and explanation. I needed something this morning because I just ended (which really had ended a yr or more ago) a 4 yr relationship and the other person is hurting. I don't feel guilty about it anymore and yet I just needed something that would give me CONFIRMATION that MY decision to complete me was correct. . . . THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!

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